Showing posts with label dr rob gilbert. Show all posts
Showing posts with label dr rob gilbert. Show all posts

Wednesday, May 14, 2008

MESSAGE #407 - OPRAH’S LIFE-CHANGING ADVICE

THE ONE THING YOU CAN DO,
STARTING RIGHT NOW,
THAT WILL CHANGE YOUR FUTURE

Oprah: “Your focus is your future.”

BOTTOM LINE: If you focus on the right thing, you’ll have a future that’s so bright you’ll need sunglasses. If you focus on the wrong thing, you’ll need a flashlight to get around. Your focus is your future.

EXTREME EXAMPLE: Imagine being waken up in the middle of the night by the screeching noise of a smoke detector. Even though you smell smoke, you climb up on a chair, open the smoke detector, and remove the battery to stop the noise. You’re focusing on the wrong thing and it may cost you your life.

NOT-SO-EXTREME EXAMPLE: While driving down the Turnpike or the Parkway, you’re talking on your cell phone, changing the radio station, or eating potato chips. You’re focusing on the wrong thing and it may cost you your life.

Some people go through their whole lives focusing on the wrong thing. Your focus is your future.

A RIDDLE: Pay close attention to this story because I’m going to try to get you to focus on the wrong thing. Suppose you live in a big city like New York, Chicago, or Los Angeles, and suppose you’re a bus driver. On the first day of work, at the first stop, 10 people get on the bus. At the second stop, eight people get on the bus. At the third stop, six people get on and two people get off. And at the fourth stop, four people get on and four people get off.

Question: How old is the bus driver?

If you did any addition and subtraction, you were focusing on the wrong thing. The correct answer is right in the first sentence: “suppose you’re a bus driver.” How old are you? That’s the right answer because you are the bus driver. Most people don’t get the right answer because they focus on the wrong thing.

Your focus is your future.

There’s no problem with losing your focus on a silly riddle. There’s a BIG problem with losing your focus in your life. Here’s one thing you can do starting right now that will improve your grades this semester. Stop focusing on results and start focusing on effort. For the remainder of the semester, stop worrying about grades and start focusing on studying. Stop focusing on getting better grades than other people and start focusing on studying more hours than anyone else would.

If you focus on results, you’ll get stress. If you focus on effort, you’ll get results.

Absolutely positively guaranteed!

Rob Gilbert, Ph.D.
Success Hotline
(973) 743-4690

Thursday, April 24, 2008

MESSAGE #387 - A MAN YOU MUST MEET

You missed him.

Jonathan Sprinkles from Houston, Texas, one of the top speakers on the college circuit and one of the very best speakers I’ve ever heard, gave a great motivational talk at Kean University (NJ) last Friday and you missed him.

But, don’t worry -- I was there taking notes for you!

Here they are some of Jonathan’s words of wisdom . . .

#1. If it’s going to be, it’s up to me.

#2. The best way for you to block your blessings is to complain about what you don’t have instead of appreciating what you do have.

#3. Somewhere, someone is praying to have your problems. We talk about not having enough shoes to wear, but there are people who don’t have any feet. We talk about having no place to go, but there are many people who don’t have anywhere to live.

#4. To have a choice -- but not use your choice -- is the same as not having a choice at all. If you can read, but you choose not to read, what’s the difference between you and someone who can’t read?

#5. If you take advantage of the choices you have in college, the rest of your life will be the best of your life.

#6. “Power” is the ability to get results.

#7. “Personal power” is the ability to determine the results in your life.

#8. When you’ve got your mind made up, I can’t make you care; I can’t make you pay attention; I can’t make you do your homework; I can’t make you do your sit-ups,

#9. But when you’ve got your mind made up, I can’t stop you either. I can’t stop you from caring; I can’t stop you from paying attention; I can’t stop you from doing your homework; I can’t stop you from doing your sit-ups.

#10. Because you have the power, you control the results in your life! No one can take away your power -- you can only give it away.

#11. Who has the power in your life? Is it you or your external circumstances?

#12. Don’t let what’s on the outside define what’s on the inside. YOU CONTROL THE RESULTS IN YOUR LIFE!

#13. Don’t tell me about your dreams -- show me your sacrifices and then I’ll tell you how serious you are.

#14. This is the way things are, but this is not the way things are always going to be.

#15. Every time you go through a tough time in life, it has one of two purposes: It’s either meant to put something in you that you didn’t have before or take something out of you that hindered you from getting where you need to be.

#16. Life will not judge you by the number of times you get knocked down. Life judges you by the number of times you get back up.

#17. Read the book “What Makes the Great Great” by Dr. Dennis Kimbro.

#18. Sometimes you find your purpose and sometimes your purpose finds you.

#19. A relationship that has not been tested cannot be trusted.

#20. Passion persuades. The person with better information will lose to the person with more passion.

#21. The measure of your life isn’t about the circumstances around you. It’s about what you choose to do with those circumstances.

#22. You have to talk to yourself the right way. You have to speak about those things that aren’t -- as though they were -- until they are.

#23. Whether you think you can or think you can’t -- you’re right.

#24. The thing you’re most afraid of -- do it first, because you’ll either get the thing that you want or you’ll get a great lesson.

#25. Some people are so negative that if you put them in a dark room they’ll start to develop!

#26. Life does not give you what you desire or what you deserve, but what you demand.

#27. Silence can never be misquoted.

#28. Why settle for second best?

#29. You were born an original -- don’t live like a copy.

Want more of Jonathan? Visit him on the web at www.JSPRINKLES.com

Monday, April 21, 2008

MESSAGE #384 - IMPOSSIBLE???

If you have no voice: SCREAM!

If you have no legs: RUN!

If you have no hope: INVENT!

What if anything were

possible?

-- from the film Alegria

Sunday, April 20, 2008

MESSAGE #383 - YOUR BIGGEST WEAKNESS CAN BECOME YOUR BIGGEST STRENGTH . .

THE CRACKED POT

A water bearer in India had two large pots, each hung on each end of a pole that he carried across his back.

One of the pots had a crack in it and the other pot was perfect. The perfect one always delivered a full portion of water at the end of the long walk from the stream to the master's house.

The cracked pot arrived only half full.

For two years this went on daily, with the bearer delivering only one and a half pots of water to his master's house.

Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments.

But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its imperfection. It was miserable that it was able to accomplish only half of what it had been made to do.

After two years of what it perceived to be a bitter failure, it finally said to the water bearer, "I am ashamed of myself, and I want to apologize."

"Why?" asked the water bearer.

"For the past two years, I’ve delivered only half my load because the crack in my side. Because of my flaws, you have to do more work."

The water bearer felt sorry for the old cracked pot, and said, "As we return to the master's house, I want you to notice the beautiful flowers along the path."

As they went up the hill, the old cracked pot saw the beautiful wild flowers on the side of the path. But, it still felt bad because it had leaked out half its load.

The bearer said to the pot, "Did you notice that there were flowers only on your side of your path, but not on the other pot's side? That's because I’ve always known about your flaw, and I took advantage of it. I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back from the stream, you've been watering them. For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate my master's table. Without you being just the way you are, we would not all have this beauty."

-- Author unknown

Each of us has our own unique flaws. We're all cracked pots. And our biggest weaknesses can become our biggest strengths.

Saturday, April 19, 2008

MESSAGE #382 - YOU’RE GOING TO SMILE AT THIS ONE!

“Some people
are
so negative
that if
you
put them
in
a dark room
they’ll
start
to
develop!”

--Jonathan Sprinkles,
professional speaker

Friday, April 18, 2008

MESSAGE #381 - A STROKE OF INSIGHT

This is a fabulous 19-minute lecture from TED.

Don’t
miss
this!!!


Thursday, April 17, 2008

MESSAGE #380 - THE POWER OF CHOICE

The greatest power
we have is the
power of choice.

It’s an actual fact
that if you’ve
been moping in
unhappiness,
you can choose
to be joyous instead
and, by effort,
Lift yourself into joy.

If you tend to be fearful,
you can overcome
that misery by choosing
to have courage.

Even in darkest grief
you have a choice.

The whole trend
and quality of
anyone’s life
is determined,
in the long run,
by the choices
that are made.

-- norman vincent peale (1898-1993)
Clergyman

Tuesday, April 15, 2008

MESSAGE #378 - ONLY THE STRONG SURVIVE

There is a legend among Native Americans concerning the two paths of life.

One path slopes gently down some low hills to the valley below.

The legend says that this is a broad and easy path, but it leads to a desert where death waits.

The other path winds upward over a steep and rocky trail.

It is filled with many difficulties, and only the strong can reach the heights of the mountain where the eagles soar.

Through this legend, Indian parents teach their children that the easy way is not the best way.

Strong character is built by facing the obstacles and overcoming them, instead of trying to avoid difficulties by seeking a life of ease.

-- author unknown

from “Sower’s Seeds Aplenty” by Brian Cavanaugh, T.O.R.

Monday, April 14, 2008

MESSAGE #377 - THE DALAI LAMA ON “A PRECIOUS HUMAN LIFE” . . .

Every day, think as you wake up . . .

Today I am fortunate to have woken up.
I am alive.
I have a precious human life.
I am not going to waste it.

I am going to use all my energies
to develop myself,
to expand my heart out to others,
to achieve enlightenment
for the benefit of all beings.

I am going to have
kind thoughts towards others.

I am not going to get angry,
or think badly about others.

I am going to benefit others
as much as I can.

Sunday, April 13, 2008

MESSAGE #376 - THE DALAI LAMA ON “THE TRUE MEANING OF LIFE” . . .

We are visitors on this planet.

We are here for 90
or 100 years
at the very most.

During that period,
We must try to do
something good,
something useful
with our lives.

If you contribute t
other people’s happiness,
you will find
the true goal,
the true meaning of life.

Saturday, April 12, 2008

MESSAGE #375 - THE DALAI LAMA ON “THE PARADOX OF OUR AGE” . . .

We have bigger houses, but smaller families;
more conveniences, but less time.

We have more degrees, but less sense;
more knowledge, but less judgment;
more experts, but more problems.

More medicines, but less healthiness.

We’ve been all the way to the moon and back,
but have trouble crossing the street to meet
the new neighbor.

We built more computers to hold more
information to produce more copies than ever,
but have less communication.

We have become long on quantity,
but short on quality.

These are times of fast foods,
but slow digestion.

Tall men, but short character.

Steep profits, but shallow relationships.

It’s a time when there is much in the window,
but nothing in the room.

Friday, April 11, 2008

MESSAGE #374 - IMPOSSIBLE???

An 85-year-old legally blind golfer from

southern Arizona made a hole-in-one this

week on a par-3 hole.

Robert Dunham accomplished the feat on

the third hole at Tortuga in Green Valley.

Playing with a group of fellow blind veterans

enrolled in a Veterans Affairs health care

system program, Dunham's volunteer assistant

lined him up with the ball, handed him a 9-iron

and stepped back.

Dunham hit the ball squarely and it landed

softly on the green, taking one hop before

nestling into the bottom of the cup.

Dunham's group erupted into a cacophony

of cheers and high-fives.

The World War II vet's first reaction?

"I thought they were kidding me," Dunham said.

"I told them, 'You guys better not be pulling my leg."'

The retired industrial supplies manager began

losing his vision about 10 years ago, but has

been in the VA program for only three weeks.

--from The Associated Press

Thursday, April 10, 2008

MESSAGE #373 - HALL OF FAME ADVICE

Willie Stargell,
the legendary
Pittsburgh Pirate
baseball player,
was once asked
to share the secret
of his success.

Stargell answered
by saying that just
before a ball game
starts the umpire
yells out, “Play ball.”

Stargell always
followed the
umpire’s advice.

He said that
he never went
to the ball park
to work.

He always went
to the ball park
to play.

Don’t
work
ball . . .
PLAY BALL!

This philosophy
helped Willie Stargell
make it to the Hall of Fame.

Wednesday, April 9, 2008

MESSAGE #372 - THIS VIDEO IS BEYOND EXCELLENT.

The following video is titled “A Good Day with Brother David Steindl-Rast.

Brother David is considered the world’s leading authority on gratitude.


Tuesday, April 8, 2008

MESSAGE #371 - THE ONE-SENTENCE SECRET TO HAPPINESS

THE
SECRET
OF
HAPPINESS
IS
TO
FIND
SOMETHING
MORE
IMPORTANT
THAN
YOU
ARE
AND
DEDICATE
YOUR
LIFE
TO
IT.

Dan Dennett, philosopher

Friday, April 4, 2008

MESSAGE #367 - AN INCREDIBLE INSIGHT FROM CARL JUNG . . .

“The
foundation
of all
mental illness
is the
unwillingness
to experience
legitimate suffering.”

Thursday, April 3, 2008

MESSAGE #366 - REQUIRED FOR MY SPORT PSYCHOLOGY STUDENTS

New York Times

April 1, 2008

Op-Ed Columnist

Pitching With Purpose

By DAVID BROOKS

A few years ago, a former professional baseball player mentioned a book that had made a great impression on him. It was called “The Mental ABC’s of Pitching,” by a sports psychologist named H.A. Dorfman. I read the book one spare evening, though, as you may have noticed, I’m not a pitcher — and no major league organization has expressed interest in making me one.

The book left an impression on me too, mostly for its moral tone. Dorfman offers to liberate people from what you might call the tyranny of the scattered mind. He offers to take pitchers, who may be thinking about a thousand and one things up on the mound, and give them mental discipline.

Others are eloquent about courage and creativity, but Dorfman is fervent about discipline. In the book’s only lyrical passage, he writes: “Self-discipline is a form of freedom. Freedom from laziness and lethargy, freedom from expectations and demands of others, freedom from weakness and fear — and doubt.”

His assumption seems to be that you can’t just urge someone to be disciplined; you have to build a structure of behavior and attitude. Behavior shapes thought. If a player disciplines his behavior, then he will also discipline his mind.

Dorfman builds that structure on the repetitiousness of baseball. It’s commonly said that it takes 10,000 hours of practice to master any craft — three hours of practice every day for 10 years. Dorfman assumes that players would have already put in those hours doing drills and repetitions. He urges them to adopt their own pregame rituals. He notes that Trevor Hoffman, the San Diego Padres closer, walks from the clubhouse to the dugout every game in the fourth inning and moves to the bullpen in the seventh.

As a pitcher enters a game, Dorfman continues, he should bring a relentlessly assertive mind-set. He should plan on attacking the strike zone early in the count, and never letting up. He will not nibble at the strike zone or try to throw the ball around hitters. He will invite contact. Even when the count is zero balls and two strikes, he will not alter his emotional tone by wasting a pitch out of the strike zone.

Just as a bike is better balanced when it is going forward, a pitcher’s mind is better balanced when it is unceasingly aggressive. If a pitcher doesn’t actually feel this way when he enters a game, Dorfman asks him to pretend. If your body impersonates an attitude long enough, then the mind begins to adopt it.

Dorfman then structures the geography of the workplace. There are two locales in a pitcher’s universe — on the mound and off the mound. Off the mound is for thinking about the past and future, on the mound is for thinking about the present. When a pitcher is on the pitching rubber, Dorfman writes, he should only think about three things: pitch selection, pitch location and the catcher’s glove, his target. If he finds himself thinking about something else, he should step off the rubber.

Dorfman has various breathing rituals he endorses, but his main focus during competition is to get his pitchers thinking simple and small. A pitcher is defined, he writes, “by the way the ball leaves his hand.” Everything else is extraneous.

In Dorfman’s description of pitching, batters barely exist. They are vague, generic abstractions that hover out there in the land beyond the pitcher’s control. A pitcher shouldn’t judge himself by how the batters hit his pitches, but instead by whether he threw the pitch he wanted to throw.

Dorfman once approached Greg Maddux after a game and asked him how it went. Maddux said simply: “Fifty out of 73.” He’d thrown 73 pitches and executed 50. Nothing else was relevant.

A baseball game is a spectacle, with a thousand points of interest. But Dorfman reduces it all to a series of simple tasks. The pitcher’s personality isn’t at the center. His talent isn’t at the center. The task is at the center.

By putting the task at the center, Dorfman illuminates the way the body and the mind communicate with each other. Once there were intellectuals who thought the mind existed above the body, but that’s been blown away by evidence. In fact, it’s easiest to change the mind by changing behavior, and that’s probably as true in the office as on the mound.

And by putting the task at the center, Dorfman helps the pitcher quiet the self. He pushes the pitcher’s thoughts away from his own qualities — his expectations, his nerve, his ego — and helps the pitcher lose himself in the job.

Not long ago, Americans saw the rise of a therapeutic culture that placed great emphasis on self-discovery, self-awareness and self-expression. But somehow the tide seems to have turned from the worship of self, and today’s message is: transcend yourself in your job — or get shelled.

A fitting reminder from opening day.

Tuesday, April 1, 2008

MESSAGE #364 - THE TWO GLASSES OF WINE THEORY

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle . . .

when 24 hours in a day are not enough . . .

remember the glasses of wine theory...

A professor stood before his philosophy class with some items on
his desk in front of him.

When the class began, he picked up a very large and empty

mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf
balls.

He then asked the students if the jar was full.

They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them
into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open
areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the
jar was full.

They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into
the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once
more if the jar was full.

The students responded with a unanimous “YES.”

The professor then produced two glasses of wine from under the
table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling
the empty space between the sand.

The students laughed.

“Now,” said the professor, as the laughter subsided, “I want you
to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the
important thin
gs -- your family, your children, your health, your friends,
and your favorite passions. These are the things that if everything else were lost and
only they remained
-- your life would still be full.

“The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your
house, and your car.

“The sand is everything else -- the small stuff.

“If you put the sand into the jar first, there’s
no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If
you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never
have room for the good things that are important to you.

“Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your
partner out to dinner. Play another 18 holes. Do one more run down the
ski slope. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the
disposal. Take care of the golf balls first; the things that really
matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”

One of the students raised her hand and asked what the wine
represented.

The professor smiled. “I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show
you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for
a couple of glasses of wine with a friend.”

THANK YOU
TO THE
GREAT JOHN McCARTHY
FOR
SHARING THIS STORY

Monday, March 31, 2008

MESSAGE #363 - I’LL PAY YOU 6,000 PENNIES FOR JUST SIX WORDS

There’s a rule when it comes to motivational quotes: LESS IS MORE.

It’s the old K.I.S.S. Formula . . .

Keep
It
Short and
Simple

For example, Captain Eddie Rickenbacker (1890-1973) (please link), the courageous World War I aviator, had a six-word formula for success . . .

THINK THINGS THROUGH
THEN FOLLOW THROUGH.

To win 6,000 pennies
for your six-word quote
call
SUCCESS HOTLINE
at
(973) 743-4690.

Sunday, March 30, 2008

MESSAGE #362 - RUNNING QUOTES

DEDICATED TO:
SUPER ATHLETE & SUPER COACH
TOM FLEMING

Everyone is an athlete. The only difference is that some of us are in training and some
are not.
George Sheehan, M.D., runner and writer

To be #1, you have to train like you’re #2.
Maurice Green, Olympic champion sprinter

A lot of people run a race to see who’s the fastest. I run to see who has the most guts.
Steve Prefontaine, Olympic medalist in track

Spirit has 50 times the strength and staying power of brawn and muscle.
Author unknown

If you want to win a race you have to go a little beserk.
Bill Rodgers, marathon champion

There is no finish line.
Nike advertising slogan

Somewhere in the world someone is training when you aren’t. When you race, he will win.
Tom Fleming, marathon champion and track coach

I eat whatever the guy who beat me in the last race ate.
Alex Ratelle, masters runner

I do not run to add days to my life – I run to add life to my days.
Ronald Rook

When you win, nothing hurts.
Author unknown

Above all, train hard, eat right, and avoid television and people with bad attitudes.
Scott Tinley, superstar triathlete

You can always run faster – it’s just going to hurt.
Author unknown

What counts in battle is what you do once the pain sets in.
John Short, track coach

Runs end . . . Running doesn’t.
Nike advertising slogan

Have a dream, make a plan, go for it. You’ll get there, I promise.
Zoe Kaplowitz, marathon runner & living inspiration